{"id":10834,"date":"2014-08-07T10:54:32","date_gmt":"2014-08-07T15:54:32","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/askastudent.utoronto.ca\/?p=10834"},"modified":"2019-08-05T00:51:46","modified_gmt":"2019-08-05T04:51:46","slug":"the-halcyon-days-of-youth","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/askastudent.utoronto.ca\/?p=10834","title":{"rendered":"the halcyon days of youth"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I&#8217;m going into my senior year and I&#8217;m having such anxiety about getting my grades high enough for u of t! Do you have any tips on how to relax in this time of panic??<\/p>\n<p>\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014<\/p>\n<p>hey there,<\/p>\n<p>i mean, different things work for different people. some people like bubble baths. some people prefer marathoning TV shows. i myself like <a href=\"https:\/\/askastudent.utoronto.ca\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/08\/paperbagprincess.jpg\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">ravaging countrysides and kidnapping princes<\/a>, but hey, to each their own.<\/p>\n<p>there are lots of different feel-good things you can do, but ultimately there&#8217;s one thing at the root of your stress, and that&#8217;s a worried mind. somehow, you need to convince yourself the worry is not worth it.<\/p>\n<p>when i <a href=\"https:\/\/askastudent.utoronto.ca\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/08\/professortrelawney.jpg\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">DELVE deep into the PSYCHE<\/a> of the high school student, i see two possible ways of minimizing stress: channelling your anxious energy <em>into<\/em> the thing you&#8217;re stressed about, or <em>away<\/em> from it. like so:<\/p>\n<p>1. channelling your anxiety <em>into <\/em>the source of the anxiety.<\/p>\n<p>the next time you feel really nervous about grade 12, create a plan for how you&#8217;re going to do really well. and none of this &#8216;i&#8217;ll try really hard.&#8217;<\/p>\n<p>what you need are specific things you can do to improve your grades, like &#8216;i&#8217;ll limit myself to three extra-curriculars&#8217; or &#8216;i&#8217;ll get a tutor for math&#8217; or &#8216;i&#8217;ll offer lackeying services to my grade 12 physics teacher so she passes me.&#8217; practical stuff. review the <a href=\"http:\/\/www.adm.utoronto.ca\/admissions\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">admissions requirements<\/a> and see where, if anywhere, you&#8217;ll need to up your game to meet them. if you have a plan, you&#8217;ll feel a lot more prepared, and a lot less nervous.<\/p>\n<p>2. channelling your anxiety <em>away<\/em> from the source of the anxiety.<\/p>\n<p>focus on acquiring a skill outside of school. i know that grade 12 is beyond stressful with applications and school and often a part-time job, but if you can find even half an hour a day to try learning something new, it&#8217;ll take your mind off things.<\/p>\n<p>learn a new musical instrument, or try learning a new language. or, if (like me) you&#8217;re <a href=\"http:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=0xojO-4VFPw\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">not talented in cool and interesting ways like music<\/a> or languages, it could be something as small as mastering sudoku puzzles, or keeping a diary. building completely new neural pathways is a challenge that requires all of your focus, meaning you&#8217;ll spend less of that focus on uni stress.<\/p>\n<p>best of luck and try not to worry too much, chum. wrinkles don&#8217;t look good on young folks like us.<\/p>\n<p>cheers,<\/p>\n<p>aska<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I&#8217;m going into my senior year and I&#8217;m having such anxiety about getting my grades high enough for u of t! Do you have any tips on how to relax in this time of panic?? \u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014\u2014 hey there, i mean, different things work for different people. some people like bubble baths. some people prefer marathoning TV shows. i myself like ravaging countrysides and kidnapping princes, but hey, to each their own. there are lots of different feel-good things you can do, but ultimately there&#8217;s one thing at the root of your stress, and that&#8217;s a worried mind. somehow, you need to convince yourself the worry is not worth it. when i DELVE deep into the PSYCHE of the high school student, i see two possible ways of minimizing stress: channelling your anxious energy into the thing you&#8217;re stressed about, or away from it. like so: 1. channelling your anxiety into the source of the anxiety. the next time you feel really nervous about grade 12, create a plan for how you&#8217;re going to do really well. and none of this &#8216;i&#8217;ll try really hard.&#8217; what you need are specific things you can do to improve your grades, like &#8216;i&#8217;ll limit myself to three extra-curriculars&#8217; or &#8216;i&#8217;ll get a tutor for math&#8217; or &#8216;i&#8217;ll offer lackeying services to my grade 12 physics teacher so she passes me.&#8217; practical stuff. review the admissions requirements and see where, if anywhere, you&#8217;ll need to up your game to meet them. if you have a plan, you&#8217;ll feel a lot more prepared, and a lot less nervous. 2. channelling your anxiety away from the source of the anxiety. focus on acquiring a skill outside of school. i know that grade 12 is beyond stressful with applications and school and often a part-time job, but if you can find even half an hour a day to try learning something new, it&#8217;ll take your mind off things. learn a new musical instrument, or try learning a new language. or, if (like me) you&#8217;re not talented in cool and interesting ways like music or languages, it could be something as small as mastering sudoku puzzles, or keeping a diary. building completely new neural pathways is a challenge that requires all of your focus, meaning you&#8217;ll spend less of that focus on uni stress. best of luck and try not to worry too much, chum. wrinkles don&#8217;t look good on young folks like us. cheers, aska<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":4,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"_uf_show_specific_survey":0,"_uf_disable_surveys":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[10,229],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-10834","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-admissions","category-stress"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/askastudent.utoronto.ca\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10834","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/askastudent.utoronto.ca\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/askastudent.utoronto.ca\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/askastudent.utoronto.ca\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/4"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/askastudent.utoronto.ca\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=10834"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/askastudent.utoronto.ca\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10834\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/askastudent.utoronto.ca\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=10834"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/askastudent.utoronto.ca\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=10834"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/askastudent.utoronto.ca\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=10834"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}