{"id":311,"date":"2001-10-15T09:43:02","date_gmt":"2001-10-15T13:43:02","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/askastudent.utoronto.ca\/?p=311"},"modified":"2007-05-22T09:45:52","modified_gmt":"2007-05-22T13:45:52","slug":"the-secret-to-loveget-a-bit-more-involved-on-campus-and-go-dancing-and-dress-cool","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/askastudent.utoronto.ca\/?p=311","title":{"rendered":"the secret to love:get a bit more involved on campus and go dancing.  and dress cool."},"content":{"rendered":"<p>You know what, I really want to have a boyfriend. I mean not someone just to hang out with and go to bed, but to love and care for, someone who&#8217;d love and care for me too.<br \/>\nThe question is, how to make that happen?<br \/>\nThere have been guys I liked, even loved, but it all has been one-sided. And there wernen&#8217;t ones who&#8217;d like me and I wouldn&#8217;t like &#8211; I mean no guy has shown interest in me.<br \/>\nSee, I won&#8217;t go out with a guy I don&#8217;t care about, I somehow can&#8217;t. Some with holding hands, kissing. For me, it&#8217;s something special, so I want to be sure. But even if I did, nobody has asked me out or anything. Nobody knows that I need to be involved in order to start something (at least like the guy), so that&#8217;s not the reason. I don&#8217;t know. I really don&#8217;t want to be alone anymore. I feel lonely, unwanted and unloved.<br \/>\n<!--more--><br \/>\ngenerally i would make fun of you for being whiny and annoying, except that i really feel the same way lately. i don&#8217;t what it is. i was really interested in this girl but i was told by a mutual friend that she was hooking up with some other guy and i really don&#8217;t want to screw with that. i&#8217;ve found people that i could hang out with, but not anybody to love. it seems that i&#8217;m in this cyclic world where the same shit keeps happening to me.<br \/>\ni too wish that i could find the right person, hell even somebody with some potential would be good enough. hopefully something will show up but i&#8217;m too busy to actually start looking for it. and i guess i really don&#8217;t want to have to force something into existence. it would be nice if a relationship just kinda happened.<br \/>\nmy only advice is to let the world take its course. don&#8217;t create stuff from nothing, and that patience is always the better choice. you should avoid settling like an envelop filled with mysterious white powder. it&#8217;s never in anyone&#8217;s best interest.<br \/>\nwhy are you alone? is it because of happenstance, lack of options, or because you&#8217;re putting out the wrong signals? i&#8217;m sorry you feel alone but take comfort in knowing that you&#8217;re not alone. everybody feels this way sometimes. or at least i do.<br \/>\niah crap. now i&#8217;m feeling lonely and unloved. thanks for ruining my day too.<br \/>\nhang in there. cool things happen out of nowhere. let me know how everything ends up.<br \/>\ncheers,<br \/>\naskastudent<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>You know what, I really want to have a boyfriend. 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