Hi aska,I’m in my first year at UTSG. My grandpa died around this time (finals) last year, and since then I’ve been going through depression (He was the reason I did most things. I always wanted to make him proud). I’ve been moderately depressed since I was younger, but I could keep it inside. This past year I wasn’t able to. I almost didn’t get into university because I couldn’t focus on school or anything else for that matter. My parents are sending me to talk to a therapist soon, because despite their best tries, they couldn’t help.I won’t go into more detail about what I’m going through, but basically my first semester has taken a hit.I’m not starting out university on a good foot, because I still can’t focus and apply myself to anything (school related or not). My marks are extremely low, and I’ll probably be on academic probation.I’m worried about what I can do. My parents suggested I pull out next semester and sort myself out before going back, but I really don’t want to do that. I just want to be okay again and do well in school again.I don’t know what to do. Do you have any suggestions? Thank you in advance.
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Nameless friend,
I am terribly sorry for the delay, decided to climb Everest. Although it did give me plenty of time to think about your question.
I’m really sorry to hear about your grandpa. There is no shame in taking a semester off to focus on yourself and getting into a position when you can dedicate fully to school.
It sounds like your parents might have your best interests at heart and I hope that the therapist helps you out.It’s hard to exert yourself in school when your main drive was your grandpa. Maybe take some time and find a reason for yourself to succeed for your own personal gain.
U of T loves you and allows you to take a semester off, even if you happen to be on academic probation.
How about this! Give your registrars office a shout and make an appointment with an academic advisor. You can explain your own situation in detail and they can help you to further decide what is best for you personally and academically. AND they usually have tissues and candy in their office!
forever here and yours,
aska