Hi.
I have two questions. First, I know students cannot have “relationships” with prof’s but what about TA’s? (After the course is over of course! Just being curious 😛 not to say that I don’t have a hot TA out there, which is partly why I ever go to tutorial.)
Secondly, I don’t know how to talk to boys! I know it may seem weird, like how can I not know, right? Well, I went to an all girl highschool and obviously there were no boys there (I’m in first year). thus, I cannot communicate with them. I don’t know how. Is there something I should know? Some secret I am not aware of? I am a shy person, which makes it harder to make friends in general, but boys are the worst.
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Dear Vixen-to-be
I’m a little sad to hear that you went to an all girls school. BUT on a positive note, you got to skip all those awkward relationships that come with new hormones.
Side bar and yet another top 5 list
5 Awkward Highschool Boy/Girl moments you got to miss
1) When a group of friends just date eachother, so they don’t have to talk to the scary boys/girls outside of the clan
2) Having your boyfriend fall for your sister who is two years older than you because she’s ‘more experienced’
3) Love triangle between 2 best friends and a boy/girl who’s in love with only one of them
4) Love triangle between 2 best friends and a boy/girl who’s in love with both of them
5) Love triangle between 2 best friends and a boy/girl and they give up on him/her and start dating eachother (also a time for experimenting with sexuality).
Anywho … the word on the street is that TA’s are a go after you’re finished the course. AND if you happen to fall in love in your next tutorial, then just switch TA’s … I really can’t see the problem with that.
What is it with the university giving us smart, tattooed babes to mark our papers? They know our hormones are going nuts right? I bet it’s so we go to class. Both you and I have made sure to go to tutorials based on the TA and not the material being discussed.
Talking to Boys 101
First off it’s totally not weird to not know how to talk with guys. Even the ladies who think they know how to talk to them, are really just getting hit on for their tight jeans and low cut shirts.
The beautiful thing about university is that people WANT to meet new people here. I know your stomach probably twists when you think about talking to a certain guy, but take a couple shots and go for it.
The great thing is that you go to university. It’s the perfect way to start a conversation. For example ‘what program are you in’ or ‘isn’t this prof a jack-ass’
Here’s a website for pick lines for girls to use on guys (these are terrible, but might just work on a humour level)
I’m really sorry to say that there is not a secret or Harry Potter spell that can make this easier. Just don’t stress, if it doesn’t go well with one person, there are plenty of other options. Guys are like girls, minus the talk about hair, nails, boy bands, and that time of month. But they do like movies, music, sport, the usual.
OR you could just walk up to a guy and give him a movie style kiss, that’s sure to get their attention
Keep me updated on you love life, I feel like once you get over your first awkward conversation, you’ll just be cruising.
OH I ALMOST FORGOT … in a world of online dating, U of T has a website for dates and friends to be … Check it (no longer in service). Who knows how it works, but maybe you find someone who’s not a creep.
With kindness,
Aska